Hurrah! I love this time of year. Mistletoe, red jumpers, oh and of course, parties. But they can be a bit of a minefield if you’re pregnant and therefore not up for a late, boozy night of dancing.
Follow the Babes with Babies three golden rules for festive fun:
Look like you’re drinking without drinking.
I’m a gin and tonic girl; love the stuff. But obviously ‘mother’s ruin’ doesn’t work when you’re pregnant, or trying, or even a new parent and not quite sure if you’ll get to sleep it off. It’s tricky not drinking when everyone else is. Soft drinks can, frankly, be dullsville. It’s particularly hard if you don’t want people to know you’re not drinking.
Bear in mind that it is often very easy to hold one glass of wine or champagne for a while without people realising you’re not drinking it. I was 8 weeks pregnant at our wedding and not a soul noticed that I nursed one half-empty glass of wine throughout my hen party and all the wedding festivities. Distract people with sparkling conversation and it’s amazing how easy it is to get away with this. This is especially straightforward at a cocktail party – and you can slip off and leave the glass somewhere or empty it surreptitiously in the bathroom when you get bored of holding it.
Alternatively, get a drink yourself from the bar and get a lovely big glass of tonic with slice and ice. It’s a really refreshing drink and no-one can tell that you’re not drinking gin with it.
Even the most beautifully bewelled flats still feel a bit wrong for some parties. But standing in heels all night is no fun for the puffy-of-foot. Wear wedges for a bit of height, confidence and a little added va-va-voom. The shops are full of great winter wedges at the moment – we love these patent ones from Nine West with the flash of festive gold. Nine West are especially good for shoes if you have gained a little extra fluid in your feet as they tend to be a little wider than the average high street fit.
The Password and The Deal.
Not sure your enthusiasm for the party will last all night, or at least, as long as your partner’s? We suggest you agree with your other half a password – to use when you really can’t take any more. It can be as simple as you using the word ‘sweetie’ or ‘darling’ if they aren’t terms you normally use.
The passwor, when used, is the hint to them to wrap things up with an excuse to leave. It’s good to have an excuse prepared (‘the babysitter/the last tube/the fact that you are pregnant’). You’ll need to agree this deal in advance but if you’re driving then it’s a pretty good deal. Just make sure they don’t overdo the Christmas Spirits and forget the password otherwise you’ll find yourself saying ‘darling’ over and over in a very cross tone!